The word MAJOR refers to one who has reached adulthood and is perceived as someone who is capable of taking independent decisions in life and is living life in a mature manner. Majority of human beings despite having achieved physical adulthood remain as children and immature in their minds. This immaturity is not confined to individuals alone, it spreads into communities, societies, and even nations causing great misery and suffering to millions of people. One can see people exhibiting immature behavior in sports and competitions, public, media and many national and international forums and institutions. It is expressed in the way we react to things and situations, the movies we watch, the words we use, the lifestyle choices we make, the emotions we express and the way we manage our relationships. On a bigger scale, human beings as a collective civilization are still immature and are minors in thoughts. It is because of this immaturity, there is large-scale genocide perpetrated in various parts of the World at various times.
We all know more or less, what physical growth means and we know from appearance when a person reaches adulthood. It is easy to understand physical growth because it is visible.
Mental growth, however, does not proceed along the same lines as physical growth. Quantifying the mental growth of a person is not easy. It is difficult to say when and at what stage a person becomes mentally mature. However mature and diligent a person is, there are times one does come under the influence of emotions and act immaturely. Each of us has a child inside us, formed out of our childhood experiences. It remains active even after we become adults. Temperamentally, it is unstable, immature, and emotional. It is an essential and important component of our personalities. Even after we become adults, it continues to play a significant role in shaping our lives and behavior.
Maturity does not necessarily increase with age, but increases with awareness and understanding, borne out of individuals perceptions and personal experiences. It develops to the extent we organize our consciousness, according to our experiences and the factual information we gather, and to the extent, we cleanse it of irrational thoughts, beliefs, prejudices, notions, and emotions, which we accumulate due to the habits of our minds.
There is no consistent correlation between physical growth and mental maturity. Sometimes a young adult may show more maturity than a grown-up person. Two persons in the same age may also have different levels of maturity. Maturity is a product of many factors such as age awareness, intelligence, education, and upbringing. Since these vary from individual to individual, people differ in their levels of maturity. In a general sense, maturity means complete physical and mental growth and having the ability to act rationally and realistically, rather than emotionally.
From a behavioral perspective, to be mature means;
• To be realistic, to be in touch with reality and guided by facts.
• To accept responsibility for self and one’s own life.
• To be willing to examine one’s self-beliefs, prejudices, and assumptions in the light of the facts and one’s own experiences and change one’s thinking, awareness, behavior, and understanding accordingly.
• To be guided by reason rather than emotions, to be able to distinguish the difference between the two and also at the same time accommodate one’s feelings and emotions appropriately and intelligently in one’s life.
• To be assertive, without being aggressive; to be friendly without being self-centered; to disagree without being insensitive; to ask without the fear of rejection, and to act without fear or anxiety.
• To be flexible and open-minded, instead of being rigid and judgmental, to be receptive to new experiences and new people; and to be willing to learn new skills and acquire new knowledge.
• To be inquisitive and exploratory, seeking answers, gathering information before arriving at conclusions, stretching one’s mind to explore hidden possibilities and one’s potentialities.
• To be free from mental conditioning and act spontaneously, according to the reality if the situation, without prejudice and preconceived notion, without the compulsion to be perfect or correct and without indulging in habitual actions and responses.
• To be in touch with the present and enjoy the passing moment.
• To know what is possible and achievable and to acknowledge that which is not
To us, one who is truly mature is a MAJOR in life. It is not easy to attain such a maturity without proper guidance and help. Hence this action to bring together individuals as a group who are interested in attaining true maturity and becoming Majors.